Dear Readers,

This next blog is more of a venting/ hurt/ frustrate write. Please bear with me while I get out the things on my mind.

I'm going to come right out and say it. I'm very frustrated with my mother-in-law. She is one of the most selfish beings that I know. I don't even consider knowing her a privilege. Knowing her is a curse, to which there is no way to get out of. Once you know her, you'd wish you didn't. I'm fortunate enough that my husband has absolutely NONE of her characteristics.

Okay, you might say this is rather harsh. It's not. Believe me, once you hear what she has done to earn her the title of WORST mother/ mother-in-law/ worst person ever in history, you'll agree with me.

My husband's youngest sister has gotten into some trouble. Okay, a lot of trouble. She hasn't made the best decisions- but then who of us hasn't made mistakes? Anyway, this past week my husband and I found out that my sister-in-law was being physically abused by her boyfriend. We called the police and filed a report that her boyfriend, was abusing her. The saddest part about all of this is that my sister-in-law is 10 weeks pregnant. Her boyfriend knows that she's pregnant and that it's his baby.
Regardless of that information, he continues to beat her every day due to his aggressive behavior and his drugged up mind. On Thursday we got a call that she was in the hospital and that we needed to pick her up. I immediately dropped what I was doing, called my husband to come get me, and we drove up to Salt Lake to get her from the hospital. When we arrived, she was black and blue and swollen everywhere. Her head was 3 times bigger than it normally is and her face was so beat up you could barely tell who she was. I'm going to pause for a minute and tell you all that it DOES NOT matter if you got yourself into a bad situation. NO ONE, I repeat NO ONE deserves to be beat by someone who "supposedly" loves them. I don't care how angry you make them, or they make you.

So, after picking up my sister-in-law, taking her to get something to eat, and picking up her prescriptions, my mother-in-law FINALLY called (we had been with my sister in law for about 3 hours now). My mother in law wanted the scoop on what was going on. She wanted to know if my sister in law was on drugs still and that this was my sister in laws fault for getting herself into this kind of situation. I kindly told my mother in law that the POLICE officer told me the best things we could do as SIBLINGS was to love her and let her know that we are there for her during this hard time. I told her I'd update her as soon as I knew what we were going to do .

My husband and I didn't go to bed until 2:00 am that next morning.

We picked up some essential things for my sister in law, got an air mattress for her to sleep on and she has been staying with us for the past 4 days. We have been letting her eat our food, shower, and sleep. She knows she is safe while she is here and that we aren't going to let anything happen to her.

On Friday night ( a day after we picked up my sister in law) my mother and father in law show up at our apartment- unannounced and uninvited. My mother in law burst into our home and started to yell at my sister in law. My husband and I went into our bedroom to talk while my sister and mother in law hashed out whatever it was my mother in law was pissed about. A few moments later, my mother in law opened our bedroom door and proceeded to yell at me. She pointed her fat fingers at me and started to criticize me for calling her a bad mother and that she didn't do anything to help these girls out. If I recall the exact words she used were "How DARE you come into this family and criticize of me and yell at me and tell me that I am an unfit mother". Now, I could feel my blood start to boil at this point. First off, I said nothing about her being a bad mother. I never told her that she didn't do anything to help these girls out. I never even suggested that she was being a bad mother. Of course I was thinking it and all of my husbands siblings know she's probably the worst mom, but we never said anything to her. Secondly, how dare she enter my home and disturb the peace of my home. How dare she feel like she has authority over me. And how DARE SHE yell at me and criticize and accuse me of saying things that were not even true!

This went on for over an hour! She yelled at me because of how I was raised. She told me I was a horrible person. The list goes on... quite frankly, I don't want to repeat the vile things that came out of her mouth.

So here I am, days later, still shaking over the horrible things. I don't know what to do from here on out. My husband and I have only been married 8 months. Already, we've had problems with his mother. I hate her! I hate everything about her! I know it doesn't do any good to hate anyone, but right now I'm still so upset that I don't know what else to do but hate her.